Im 20 and dating a 30 year old
One of my close bros just started seeing someone pretty young for them, he confided in me that he was initially uncomfortable about the age gap but proceeded to now date this person. He probably feels impressive in her eyes and that makes him feel better about himself. He used my immaturity and naivete to pressure me into doing things I was not prepared for, emotionally and physically. But just judging from what you wrote and my own experience, I think hes probably a creep. I thought I was so cool dating an older guy, but with time I realized how manipulative and condescending he was.She seems perfectly fine after meeting her but for some reason I'm still finding it hard to ignore the age gap. He condescended me a lot and acted like I was stupid for liking typical 19-year-old girl things. If he brings her around: pay attention to how they're acting. Does he talk down to her or make pervy comments to her publicly? And dont be afraid to call him out if he acts shitty toward her. Editing to add: it's very likely that the "cool and mature" feeling I spoke of will wear off quickly and be replaced with a "wtf am I doing with this guy" feeling. But if anyone asked me at the time it was all good, no issues!He never seemed that happy in the relationship, but everyone just assumed they would eventually get married.Now, after a long and difficult breakup, The New Lease On Life Guy has reemerged with a bang and is suddenly acting like he just got called down on The Price Is Right.
He seems to be wanting to relive his younger days lately and now in the process of splitting up. At the time I thought I was so cool and mature, but looking back several years later it was really messed up.He’s not really sure how to be single but he’s goddamn happy he is, and he’s sure as hell going out tonight.He’s also the arch-nemesis of The Resigned Fiance, who’s in an equally unhappy relationship but just kind of kept going with it, unable to resist the sweet, sweet inertia, and who most certainly does not want to hear about The New Lease On Life Guy’s latest exploits.The Total Package is an athlete, a musician, and an avid traveler.The Total Package is handsome—and you better believe he’s well-groomed.