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“I see just as many women calling men baby as men calling women baby,” confirmed Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and author of best-sellers .
We’ve become accustomed to hearing adults use “baby” as a romantic term of endearment—but can we really ignore the fact that the primary meaning of “baby” is “small human child?
”“Certainly the term ‘baby’ is infantilizing,” said Logan Levkoff, the author of several books on sex and relationships.
(If you want to put your own spin on it, you could try the original Middle English version: “swete heorte.”) Other early fans of “sweetheart” included Chaucer (1374’s : “Curtsie sweete hartes, and so the Measure endes.”) “Honey” is another safe option; it can boast both an 800-year history and being good enough for Dunbar. “Babe” is a syllable farther away from children, but it’s still infantilizing; in its first documented use as a romantic term of endearment, Ray Charles alternates “babe” with “kid,” singing, “Oh, ma babe, waltz with me, kid.”“Some people will recoil at terms like ‘babe,’” said Kerner.
“There are many women who don’t want to be referred to as ‘babe’ in any context.